emotional vampire

[ ih-moh-shuh-nl vam-pahyuhr ]

noun

1. a person who is a depressing or debilitating presence in the lives of others because their typical behavior involves judging, criticizing, and manipulating others rather than honoring, affirming, or appreciating them. Compare balcony person ( def ).

Word History and Origins

Origin of emotional vampire¹

First recorded in 1905–10

Example Sentences

The histrionic Tanya is, as always, a lot and too much, an emotional vampire who needs people and worships an unrealistic concept of what it means to be adored and cared for.

From Salon

And he's somewhat of an emotional vampire as in trying to garner emotional support from you, but neglects to do it himself.

From Salon

Guilty: Your sister is something of an emotional vampire, and your generosity toward her over the past 20 years has enabled her to control you to the extent that you and your husband have already determined that you won’t be able to enjoy a wonderful vacation without her.

From Washington Post

The most compelling story line, for me, was that of Steven Grlscz, an emotional vampire whose relationships culminate in murder.

From Washington Post

Just as we’ve all met an energy vampire, we all have been trapped in a friendship with an emotional vampire who seems to feed off our pity.

From Slate