Slang dictionary
sloppy seconds
[slop-ee sek-uhndz]
What does sloppy seconds mean?
Sloppy seconds also refers to dating someone after they’ve just broken up with someone in your immediate social group.
Sometimes, it refers to having sex with someone who’s just finished a sexual act with someone else.
Where does sloppy seconds come from?
Dated to the 1960s, sloppy seconds stems from the idea that, if a man has sex with a women directly after she’s had intercourse with another man, the relevant orifice will contain bodily fluids from the previous partner, therefore making it sloppy. Seconds also evokes getting another plate of food at a meal. Since the 1970s, the expression has been gender-neutral; anyone can be another’s sloppy seconds.
Sloppy seconds found its way into a Fantastic Four comic book in 1964 and then again two years later in an issue of Daredevil. It’s unclear whether the editor of both issues, Stan Lee, understood the sexual definition of the term, as he used it to mean a superhero getting a swing at a villain after another superhero had already beaten them up.
The term made its way to Hollywood in 1978’s Grease during an interaction between Danny (John Travolta) and his friend’s girlfriend Rizzo (Stockard Channing). In the scene, Danny compliments Rizzo on her appearance. Taking it as a sexual advance, Rizzo snidely tells Danny to “eat your heart out,” to which he fires back “sloppy seconds ain’t my style.”
In 1984 the term was adopted as the name of the Indianapolis band Sloppy Seconds. The punk group even hosted a music festival called Sloppy Palooza on a somewhat yearly basis. Don’t worry though, we won’t get into the fine details of what went down at the event.
Examples of sloppy seconds
Mariah Carey: A Sloppy-Seconds Engagement?
Who uses sloppy seconds?
Given the crassness of the term, sloppy seconds is reserved for informal situations among friends. For many, receiving sloppy seconds is considered very undesirable.
Poor Artie always getting sloppy seconds #MeTVWWWest
— Dippy Hippie Lady (@ladyisasmartass) September 15, 2018
It’s not uncommon to see the term used as an insult when directed toward someone who might now be engaging in sexual activity with an ex-partner, implying that person is promiscuous.
You must reeeeally like my sloppy seconds 😴
— Coryne (@Corynnevictoria) September 22, 2018
Sloppy seconds It can also characterize any time a person repurposes something from an ex-partner for a new one, e.g., an engagement ring. That doesn’t feel very good, now does it?
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