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pick-me girl

pick me girl [ pik mee gurl ]

What does pick-me girl mean?

A pick-me girl is a woman who obsessively desires male approval and validation, often at the expense of other women.

Despite the word girl being used, the term pick-me girl is almost always used to describe an adult woman.

The term pick-me girl is used to describe a woman who obviously and obsessively works to gain men’s attention or acceptance. Typically, a pick-me girl talks about how she’s not like other women, especially in ways considered typically feminine. A pick-me girl may point out how she doesn’t wear makeup or prefers sports to fashion.

Pick-me girl is often discussed as the female equivalent of simp, a term often used to describe a man who obsessively seeks female attention. Like simp, pick-me girl is almost always used as a negative term.

Example: I’m so tired of pick-me girls, who go on and on about how they’re better than other women.

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Where does pick-me girl come from?

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The pick-me in pick-me girl describes a woman who wants a man to pick her over other women. The term also alludes to the idea that the woman will do anything for attention or acceptance, similar to a small child who desperately wants to be chosen or noticed.

The term pick-me girl has been used since at least 2016. Even from its earliest usage, it was almost always used negatively to refer to women who were obsessed with gaining male attention.

Pick-me girl spread in awareness during the rest of the 2010s and early 2020s due to widespread usage on social media platforms.

Examples of pick-me girl

Nothing sadder than a pick me girl nobody’s picking
@KindaHagi, September 15, 2022
Essentially, a pick-me girl’s main goal is to gain the attention of the men in her orbit by pointing out all the ways in which she stands out from other women and “basic” feminine interests.
Iman Hariri-Kia, Cosmopolitan, December 2, 2022

Who uses pick-me girl?

Pick-me girl is almost always used as a negative term, especially by women criticizing other women who are obsessed with men.

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