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Ben Wa balls
[ben wah bawlz]
What does Ben Wa balls mean?
Ben Wa…aaaaat 😳??? Ben Wa balls are small, round balls, often made of metal or rubber, inserted into the vagina for sexual pleasure or Kegel exercises.
Related words:
- anal beads
- baoding balls
- butt plug
- cock ring
Where does Ben Wa balls come from?
Orgasm balls, Venus balls, Geisha balls: All these erotic aliases for Ben Wa balls should give you a good idea of what’s to come 😉.
Not to be confused with anal beads, Ben Wa balls are strictly intended for vaginal use only. Once inserted, either alone or with help from a partner, they are supposed to be held in with the pelvic muscles. When seated, they can provide subtle stimulation as a type of foreplay. If left in during sex, it can provide an added sensation.
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Said to originate in ancient Japan, the term Ben Wa balls is evidenced in the 1970s in sex guides and popular women’s magazines. Why they are called Ben Wa isn’t exactly clear, but the term seems to be an English attempt to sound Japanese.
With references to them expanding in the 1990s and 2000s, Ben Wa balls are best known from their appearance in a steamy 50 Shades Darker scene (2o12 for the book, 2017 for the film), in which the character Christian asks Ana to secretly “wear” them while attending a masquerade charity ball.
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Ben Wa balls come in a variety of colors, materials, sizes, and even shapes. Some appear similar to large marbles while others look peanut shaped. Yet others are even attached to string or silk for easy removal. You can even get vibrating balls!
While they can provide sexual stimulation alone, another common use of Ben Wa balls is for Kegel exercises, which strengthen pelvic floor muscles, helping with bladder control and age-related or post-birth incontinence (as well as apparently improving orgasms, we’re told).
Examples of Ben Wa balls
Who uses Ben Wa balls?
Especially post-50 Shades, Ben Wa balls are mentioned by excited (or underwhelmed) ladies and women’s lifestyle media outlets—and, of course, appear in porn, erotic literature, and sex-toy merchandising.
Ladies!! I bought my first set of ben wa balls and I am very excited to try them! Anyone have any experiences they’re willing to share?
— ashley (@bbybratty) March 29, 2018
Sometimes jokes are made at the expense of ben wa balls, with folks sharing embarrassing stories of Ben Wa balls falling out at the wrong place and wrong time.
Hahahaha my manager was telling me she was at the supermarket once and some ladies ben wa balls fell out of her and they were rolling towards her hahahaha that shit was too much
— ⛓ 𝔐𝔞𝔯𝔦𝔫𝔞 𝔏𝔬𝔠𝔬𝔰 𝔘𝔭 𝔉𝔯𝔬𝔫𝔱⛓🦂 (@marinalocos) April 10, 2018
Biggest fail in terms of user error was forgetting I had glass ben wa balls in, using a bathroom on a long train trip and relaxing my PC muscles at an inopportune moment. I was mortified. Lol.
— Siren Vandoll 🌹 (@thesensiren) April 12, 2018
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