diffidence

American  

[dif-i-duhns] / ˈdɪf ɪ dəns /

noun

1. the quality or state of being diffident.

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Other Word Forms

• nondiffidence noun

Etymology

Origin of diffidence

First recorded in 1400–50; Middle English, from Latin diffīdentia “mistrust, want of confidence”; see diffident, -ence

Explanation

The noun diffidence refers to a lack of self-confidence. Your diffidence might be the reason why you never say "hi" to the cute guy or gal in the elevator or why you never ask for a raise. The noun diffidence comes from the Latin word diffidere, meaning "to mistrust" or "to lack confidence." Diffidence is often mistaken for snootiness because people don't understand that the diffident person is shy and lacking in confidence. "They asked him to be the team leader, but he expressed diffidence, saying that he didn't think he had enough time to do the job justice, nor did he think he had enough experience."

Example Sentences

That diffidence waned as the laidback island he calls home slowly found its popularity among Western travellers.

From BBC • Oct. 18, 2025

One of the most frustrating aspects of the Cuomo campaign is the candidate’s diffidence about his time as governor.

From The Wall Street Journal • Oct. 12, 2025

Dwane Walcott’s “Mitch,” as he is known to friends, has a diffidence that in Blanche’s eyes makes him seem almost gentlemanly among Stanley’s boorish friends.

From Los Angeles Times • Mar. 11, 2025

The scene says a lot with a little, hitting comic beats but ending deflatedly thanks to the art dealer’s ruthless reaction to this diffidence.

From New York Times • Mar. 15, 2024

He put the lemons into a bag and, with a curious diffidence, she came closer to the counter to give him the money.

From "Go Tell It on the Mountain" by James Baldwin